Sorry I can’t, I have a Dominatrix workshop that day
Provided photo via Evangelline Dubois (Mistress Eve)
From spanking, Golden Showers, and a sample slave contract, to boundaries, safety, and a practical starter’s shopping list, Mistress Eve covers it all in her book, How to be a Domme: The Practical Guide to Becoming a Professional Dominatrix. And after a career of more than eight years as a professional Dominatrix (called a ProDomme), Eve is now offering workshops in Victoria until March.
Evangelline Dubois, or Mistress Eve, is the name of the persona that clients would interact with during sessions. Many Dommes, like drag queens, have a professional name that is separate from their everyday self. Eve is currently retired from being a professional Dominatrix, and spends her time freelance writing and teaching others about the profession. She is not particularly interested in BDSM (Bondage and Discipline, Sadism and Masochism) in her own private life.
Eve feels that female sexuality, especially in professions like being a Dominatrix or a Call Girl, is misunderstood. Generally, she says, “We are not in it for our own sexual gratification … [Being a Domme] doesn’t turn me on. It’s fun, and it’s a good way for a person with a personality like me to make some money.”
It’s a business, like any other. Well, not exactly like any other.
“Many of my clients have had to hide their preferences from friends and family, and seek the services of a Domme to fulfill their needs which are unacceptable to others.”
Every Domme sets their own boundaries as to how much physical contact they provide.
“I had really strict boundaries, like I wouldn’t do anything sexual,” says Eve.
But clients who seek out a Domme aren’t necessarily looking for sex.
Provided photo via Evangelline Dubois (Mistress Eve)
“Many of my clients have had to hide their preferences from friends and family, and seek the services of a Domme to fulfill their needs which are unacceptable to others,” she writes in How to be a Domme.
Eve had no experience in the BDSM world when she started her business. Just a background in theatre, a business-oriented brain, the requisite dominant personality, and a little advice from a friend already in the industry to get her off the ground.
As a writer and someone who started her career from scratch, Eve found herself in a unique position to help others do the same by writing a training manual, the first of its kind in English.
“I have all this information that could be useful to women … If a woman or a trans person wants to start doing this job they’re going to have to deal with men coming to their house, and emails, and all that is intimidating.”
The manual and the workshops are a way for Eve to pass on the advice that she couldn’t find when she was starting her own business.
For example, remember that starter’s shopping list I mentioned earlier?
“In addition to my home computer, digital camera and items I already owned like high heels, here’s an example of what I had to work with when I began years ago:
-christmas lights and coloured light bulbs ($10)
-painted purple walls ($40)
-pantyhose used to tie clients to doors and to the bed ($15)
-a blindfold ($4)
-a crop ($10)
-drugstore items ($20)
-outfits (about $40 each)
So for a grand total of about $150 this is how you can start your own home business.”
While How to be a Domme is a practical business manual, her workshops focus on the sessions themselves, including how to properly prepare, and treat clients.
“If there are women out there that … want to explore a bigger part of themselves, like a sexual part of themselves, or a fierce part of themselves, or a dominant part of themselves, they might be interested.”
Eve’s book and her workshop are not only for people who want to become ProDommes.
“Women that want to, in their private life, or maybe even in other aspects of their life … step into that archetypal role and learn about how to be that very, very fierce and powerful character, they can definitely benefit.”
Learning how to take over a room or control a situation are relevant skills for just about everybody. “It’s acting, but it’s also confidence,” Eve says.
What can you expect in the workshop?
When you confirm and pay a deposit, Eve will send you a PDF copy of her book. In the actual session, she establishes what her group is interested in learning, then simulates a session with a colleague who plays the client — called a ‘sub’.
“If there are women out there that … want to explore a bigger part of themselves, like a sexual part of themselves, or a fierce part of themselves, or a dominant part of themselves, they might be interested.
But whether you have a partner or not, the skills that come with being a Domme can be empowering for anyone. So whether it’s for your boyfriend, girlfriend, or yourself, the How to Be a Domme workshop and/or book is the fun, kinky, empowering Valentine’s Gift to make flowers and chocolate tremble in their boots — and like it.
For more information on Mistress Eve, her workshop, or her book, visit https://pleaseeve.weebly.com/
